she/they
Glitter (she/they) entered the kink scene while still an active member of the religious cult she was raised in. Because of this, her early exploration of kink was deeply secretive and, if she’s honest, often dangerous. The beginning of her journey was a fortunate one; it could have ended very differently. She entered a dynamic with someone who cared for her well and provided mentorship during her introduction to the scene.
Her early dynamics were laced with emotional landmines and unrecognized triggers. After leaving the cult and with the encouragement of her Dominant, Glitter brought these experiences into therapy, where she began to understand how trauma reenactment had shaped her relationships to power, submission, and belonging.
That realization was devastating. Submission and kink had already become part of who she was, and she feared she might have to walk away from the community entirely. Instead, through sustained healing and intentional work, Glitter learned to step out of kink as a form of self-harm and into submission rooted in agency, embodiment, consent, and deep pleasure.
Professionally, Glitter is an educator and fat activist with a background in the classroom and social work. Her work lives at the intersection of body liberation, kink, and religious deconstruction, examining how anti-fat bias, purity culture, and internalized shame shape the ways we negotiate power, pleasure, and belonging. Drawing from both lived and professional experience, Glitter brings a nuanced understanding of shame, desirability politics, and power exchange to her work. She is passionate about building kink spaces where marginalized bodies are not just included but centered, respected, and celebrated.
Fat bodies belong in kink: not as exceptions, accommodations, or afterthoughts, but as powerful, desirable, and fully capable participants. And like all bodies, they require thoughtful care, informed technique, and sustainable practices.
This workshop focuses on the practical and body-based considerations of engaging fat bodies in kink scenes with intention, safety, and respect.
Together, we’ll explore:
-Common myths about fat bodies and physical capability
-Joint stability, hypermobility, and safer positioning
-Impact play placement and tissue differences
-Rope and restraint modifications for larger bodies
-Chronic pain, stamina, and energy sustainability
-Aftercare needs specific to fat and marginalized bodies
Participants will gain:
-Practical safety frameworks grounded in body neutrality and liberation
-Adaptation strategies for rope, impact, restraint, and service dynamics
-Tools for communicating physical needs without apology
-Ways to support long-term, sustainable kink participation
This class is based in harm reduction, body autonomy, and the belief that no one should have to shrink, literally or metaphorically, to participate in kink. Whether you are playing in a fat body or with one, you’ll leave with concrete skills and a deeper respect for what embodied play really looks like.
Fat bodies are not fragile, but they deserve informed handling.
For many people raised in high-control or purity-based religious environments, experiencing desire was more than discouraged. It was moralized, surveilled, and disciplined. Even years after leaving organized religion, the body may still associate pleasure with danger, kink with sin or corruption, and arousal with shame.
This workshop explores how religious conditioning can shape and sometimes distort our relationship to kink.
Together, we’ll examine:
-How purity culture and spiritual shame can linger in the body
-The difference between consensual power exchange and reenactment of punitive religiosity
-Internalized beliefs about worthiness, pleasure, and “goodness”
-How religious trauma can show up in negotiation and aftercare
-Reclaiming desire without apology or self-censorship
Participants will gain:
-Tools for identifying shame-driven narratives inside kink dynamics
-Language for negotiating scenes when religious conditioning is activated
-Skills for recognizing the difference between desire and inherited guilt
-Practical strategies to increase agency and reduce disconnection from the body
-A model of radical self-acceptance that allows kink to come from a place of agency instead of reaction or reenactment
This class honors diverse spiritual paths, including those who have deconstructed faith, reconstructed it, or chosen something entirely new. You do not need to erase your past to claim your desire. You get to build a kink practice removed from conditioned fear and rooted in agency.